It’s Not You, It’s Me

Beverly Flaxington is a practice management consultant. She answers questions from advisors facing human resource issues. To submit yours, email us here.

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Dear Bev,

I have been following your work for some time. I appreciate most of what you write and speak about, and I take much of it to heart.

I’m having a problem with two key employees (“John” and “Jane”). I sought feedback from other group members about their behavior. I was very professional and asked mostly about obstacles and concerns they might have with their performance. I was a bit shocked to hear that John and Jane talked to these other colleagues about how difficult it is working for me. John and Jane have been here the shortest amount of time, 28 months and 16 months respectively. My other employees have been here five years or more, and some as many as 15 years.

The employees who shared this with me were very hesitant. I don’t want to betray confidences, but is it odd some newer people would have such negative things to say?