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A few days ago, I had a call with an advisor who said he was averaging 10 new meetings a month, and only converting a few of them into new paying clients. When I suggested he focus on building trust instead of relationship-building, he paused.
“But isn’t that what I’m doing? They all liked me, and I was able to show my value.”
Many advisors who have been operating for years under the traditional sales mindset share the common misconception that relationship-building is required to make the sale.
Understand that your prospects may like you, but they probably don’t trust you.
The truth is, relationship-building and trust-building are mutually exclusive, like two parallel planes that don’t intersect.
The confusion between the two comes from the old sales myth that you need to become someone’s friend (a peer-like relationship) for them to do business with you. That model worked just fine pre-Covid, but it no longer works in the new economy where the advisory profession has been commoditized.
Instead, you may find yourself creating “superficial friendships” in multiple meetings, with the hope that if they like you enough, they’ll eventually do business with you (a very long sales cycle).
However, your prospects can sense right away that you have a hidden agenda by being overly friendly with them. This breaks trust, and while they may like you, their guard remains up. Ultimately, they may never reveal to you the truth of their situation.
With a trust-based mindset, the approach is the exact opposite. Pre-sale, the focus is solely to build trust by providing clarity on the depth of their issues – not friendship.
A real and authentic relationship can only be built over time, after they become a paying client and you solve their problem – not before.
Doctors don’t do coffee and hang out with their patients before they diagnose them. They know that mixing business and socializing would be unprofessional and get in the way of doing their job effectively.
When you let go of overlaying a personal relationship pre-sale – viewing yourself as the doctor, and your prospect as the patient – you create authentic trust and get to the truth of whether you and they are a fit.
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Ari Galper is the world’s number one authority on trust-based selling and is the most sought-after high-net worth/lead generation expert for financial advisors. His newest book, “Trust In A Split Second” has become an instant best-seller among financial advisors worldwide – you can get a Free copy of Ari’s book here and, when you click the “YES” button in the order form, you’ll also receive a complimentary “plug up the holes” lead generation consultation. Ari has been featured in CEO Magazine, Forbes, INC Magazine and the Financial Review. He is considered a contrarian in the financial services industry and in his book, everything you learned about selling will be turned upside down. No more chasing, no pressure, no closing.
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